Both were an extraordinary life influence.
To
this day, I always have a jar of the New Mexico hot chile sauce in my
fridge that my grandma taught me to make - the same she always had in
her ‘Frigidaire’ .
She’d always yell at me and my cousins to ‘cut the comedy’ , but the comedy and laughter still continues!
She made us all blankets and cooked for us until she died. I’ll never have another tamale or potato enchilada like hers.
Her attire
until the end was super feminine dresses, shoes, costume jewelry and
would even ask for lipstick when occasional hospitalized in her last
years.
Aunt
Burt was born ‘Beatrice’ , was proudly out and queer , and transitioned
to openly living the life of a male by the 1930’s - way ahead of their
time!
In
the 70’s we call him 'Aunt Burt ‘. Burt embraced the masculine and
feminine I suppose and never scolded us for getting the pronouns mixed
up- actually embraced it! Aunt Burt called me and my brother ‘hotrod’ and would take us crab fishing down at various San Francisco Piers.
Aunt
Burt’s look while I was growing up was men's Ben Davis work pants,
a white t-shirt with a pack of cigarettes rolled into the sleeve and
always sported black work boots.
These two sisters were life long friends and even lived together in Burt’s final years.
This image really shows the yin and yang of them even as youth in New Mexico.
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